All theses years following, I did not feel good about myself, am reunited with my nephew, reading up on how to talk to him. Precious few people survive such a fall; the water about 200 feet below acts the same as concrete when a person lands on it at high speed. Also, on the Resources page, I list a number of websites and other resources for people who have lost someone to suicide. Wishing you peace, I am both, not realizing this until reading today My dad ended his life by his own hands , when I was 9. It happens. In 2000, he actually did jump off the Golden Gate Bridge. The bridge is 225 feet high, and after a four-second fall, jumpers hit the water at a speed of 75mph, with a force equivalent to a lorry crashing into a wall. A jump off the Golden Gate Bridge takes around four seconds, during which a person will reach a speed of 80 mph before smashing into the water's surface like concrete. But things went wrong for Dusty as he climbed the rails to attempt the feat. / CBS San Francisco. "There were many people in that vicinity during that time," said Mr. West. West was in the Bay Area to take summer classes at UC Berkeley; she was supposed to enter school in the fall, but due to a concussion she sustained and classes being held remotely, she opted to defer for another year but stayed in California with family friends. The footage taken by Guzman didn't make the news, but was watched by a small, select group: the San Francisco coroners jury, which quickly ruled a case of accidental death from drowning a week later. I lost my boyfriend to suicide two years ago and I have not been able to forgive myself. First published on January 25, 2021 / 11:03 AM. Those two have shown some effectiveness at reducing suicidal ideation and behavior. I said, Well, the night we met I got so drunk I passed out on the living room floor. Between 1937 and 2012, an estimated 1,400 bodies were recovered of people who had jumped from the Golden Gate Bridge, located in the San Francisco Bay Area in the United States. After the war, people were looking for entertainment in 1940's San Francisco, but TVs were not yet common in homes, public hangings were history and the 49ers hadnt joined the NFL yet. Dialectical behavior therapy? On average, 30 people or more die from suicide here each year. You note that installation of a suicide barrier at the Bloor Viaduct in Toronto merely caused people to go to other locations in Toronto to die by suicide. The decision collapsed Rhodes sister's claim that her brother was murdered as cameraman Guzman should have been in a boat to pull her brother out of the water. Well living isnt what its cracked up to be. Sydney West was last seen near the Golden Gate Bridge in the early morning hours of Sept. 30, walking near Crissy Field. Your message here is a good one. 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This was the beginning of my recognition of the fact that I wasnt the horrible person I made myself out to be, in fact, my story is very much like a lot of alcoholics Ive met. Somehow I survived. A narcissistic parent doesnt cause suicide, either lifes problems do or mental illness does. All clues so far, the family has revealed, have not been fruitful. Upon its completion in 1937, it was the tallest and longest suspension bridge in the world. I couldnt pull all the way. Especially when its an opinion so your both right. A vigil was held last week for West in Pleasanton. America feeds narcissistic women because their joy is in materialistic consumption, the backbone of this country that once believed life had a higher purpose. Sadly, your post is being used by some commenters to justify the Golden Gate Bridge net boondoggle. Woke up yesterday and realized I needed to make another pilgrimage before the series begins. Its sad how much youve suffered, and its inspirational how differently you feel right now. Many self harm injuries, stitches. They lied about every imaginable factor of surviving in life. This research, though 35 years old, still holds true. SFGATE news editor Amy Graff contributed to this report. "Together we will find Sydney and bring her home," her mother said. After he was rescued, he continued to live, and lives still, serving as a suicide prevention advocate at the national level. (felt good to be honest for once). You also can find other places to get help by phone, email, chat, or text at http://www.SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources/#immediatehelp. I dont understand why things are suddenly going so well for me though.. Youd think karma would hit me and make my life way worse but I guess the universe wants me alive for some reason? And these different medications can be combined at various dosages. . It would be logical to assume that being prevented from jumping merely delayed their death. I agree with you completely, Anonymous. Someone may have seen something -- any piece of information could help lead us to Sydney," parents Kimberly and Jay West said in a joint statement. I interviewed her parents.https://t.co/tiBGM53NZz pic.twitter.com/lvHh2cCrZg. This site continues to distract me from my suicidal thoughts. 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Edit: FAQs https://findsydneywest.com/faq, https://www.pollyklaas.org/missing-children/sydney-west/, https://pleasantonweekly.com/news/2021/09/30/what-a-week-find-sydney-west, https://www.kron4.com/news/bay-area/searching-for-sydney-san-francisco-police-still-asking-for-publics-help/?fbclid=IwAR2uVE3anCjr5EvpUerTiD6JZxCAENR83-xIRz3TRzAfRuGckyYFzRqnobM, https://storiesoftheunsolved.com/2020/11/27/the-disappearance-of-sydney-west/. I worry almost everyday that Ill maim myself again and not die. In this clinical case conference, the authors begin by presenting vignettes to capture the diversity of bridge suicide. A missing person case has also been launched in Orange County, North Carolina, where West's family lives. Her parents thanked others for the love and support, and asked people to continue spreading the word by sharing photos and memories of their daughter on social media. Im not sure that preventing suicide is such a noble act. I just hope that one day her family will get answers. The family of a Sydney West, a 19-year-old Pleasanton native and former Foothill High School student, is again asking the public for any information about their daughters whereabouts leading up to her disappearance last month in San Francisco. I know someone who hanged themself 18 months ago after a buildup of personal problems and much alcohol that night, but rescue services were called and saved him. I know you mean well, but I always feel I wished I never survived. Im sorry to hear of your loss I did find this website and it has so much information that I needed to read. The sad thing is that, as I say in my letter, some of what your friend thinks and believes may actually be true, but his mind is probably also shutting him out of other truths that could balance out his pain. I knew then that I would never try it again. Sydney Kaitlyn West, 19, was last seen near the Golden Gate Bridge around 6:45 a.m. on September 30, 2020. There are so many types of antidepressants these days (around 40), plus mood stabilizers, plus antipsychotic medications that can also be used to treat depression. There are many people with children whose pain or distorted thinking overrides all else, in spite of their best wishes. 2023 CBS Broadcasting Inc. All Rights Reserved. Previously, police said she had not been seen or heard from since before dawn, on Sept. 29. You can read more about this at http://www.bmj.com/content/341/bmj.c4447. Andrew Chamings is an editor at SFGATE. He and his wife lived in Tracy and had an adorable . Police do not necessarily believe there was foul play involved, according to an interview Rueca had with KRON4. Peace be with you Steven. Both my son and I said we woud never consider it again, after that. Praying for you. Such an assumption would be wrong. Her Disappearance: Sydney West was a 19-year-old freshman at U.C. 1998 - 2023 Nexstar Media Inc. | All Rights Reserved. Overall, a meta-analysis of numerous studies that looked at bridges suicide barriers found them to be effective. Ive worked in Mental health, Ive lost a family member through suicide. As his wife described, without the weighted boots to keep him upright, Rhodes' body arched forward, eventually meeting the water face-first. Public File for KBCW-TV / KBCW 44 Cable 12. Had she jumped somebody definitely would have noticed, and it would've been caught on CCTV (the cameras are placed on light poles so fog does not block). For me, the will to live kicked in. The Pittsburg Sun-Telegraph on May 2, 1948. what can I do. YEAH? God Bless You. We cannot overlook that 10% of people who survive a suicide attempt do go on to die by suicide. Despite having to raise two young children alone with barely a cent to her name, Lorraine refused many offers from news agencies to sell the film of her husbands demise. Search within r/redsox. We certainly do need to continue educating people about suicide prevention, including the reality that most people who survive a suicide attempt choose life afterwards. Her disappearance was every parents worst nightmare. West's parents are asking anyone who may have been commuting or exercising on the bridge to come forward with anything they may have seen. Copyright 2023 Nexstar Media Inc. All rights reserved. I hate when people invalidate another persons pain by suggesting a suicide attempt wasnt a sincere result of suffering. Which will turn into the vicious cycle of no job= no money, and no money = no job. News. It turns out that I had, and still have, many misconceptions about myself and the people in encounter. Therapists and doctors may help provide relief. Suicide needs to be addressed from many angles, of which means restriction is only one. Log In Sign Up. Wests parents said they have now hired a private investigator who is working with the San Francisco Police Department and Orange County (North Carolina) Sheriffs Department. But overall, the evidence is that prevention is not simply a temporary delay of death. I would bet that most, if not all, had narcissistic mothers. Why Prevent Suicide? So they dont die, but continue miserable lives wishing for it to be over. I am literally living day by day and full of guilt, regret and anger. We are going to keep looking.. At this point, the instinct is what keeps me living. In February 2009, following the murder of a four-year-old girl who was thrown off the bridge by her father, the first stage of a temporary suicide barrier was erected on Westgate Bridge, constructed of concrete crash barriers topped with a welded mesh fence. It is true that suicide sometimes defies even the best efforts to thwart it. Sydney Harbour Bridge has a suicide prevention barrier. The longitude and latitude for the Bridge location is approximately: N 37 Degrees, 49 Minutes, 8.0 Seconds --- W 122 Degrees, 28 Minutes, 40.6 Seconds. Also, I've authored the books Helping the Suicidal Person: Tips and Techniques for Professionals and Loving Someone with Suicidal Thoughts: What Family, Friends, and Partners Can Say and Do. Hello Tony, so sorry for my belated response. I just need time to tidy up affairs, belongings, finances, assemble the plan. 2021 CBS Broadcasting Inc. All Rights Reserved. Video footage from the bridge has been carefully reviewed by investigators but due to foggy and smoky conditions camera views where obstructed making it impossible to tell her exact location on the bridge. Come home.. I hope you can find peace within. I am resigned to staying alive until I die in some other way. . She was last seen around 6:45 am when she was dropped off by a rideshare driver. Also Live Through This website has beautiful portraits (photographic but also in prose) of people who survived a suicide attempt. Throughout the years, Ive engaged in self-injurious behaviors. Press J to jump to the feed. My overdose gave me seizures. You definitely are not alone, and it does often feel good to be honest about suicidal thoughts to speak what many people consider to be the unspeakable. Sometimes, life just sucks and the pain of living is unbearable. Its not always a change of mind when deciding not to jump its fear of failure, Hi Londa, Female Representation In The Tech And Startup World: UC Berkeley, Berkeley Asks Residents To Provide Input On Wildfire Response, American Tulip Day & Free, U-Pick-Tulips 2023: Union Square, San Francisco, Rotary Club's Drive-Thru Crab & Pasta Feed 2023: Orinda. Suicide isnt an option, keep telling yourself that. It is wonderful that having children seems to have inoculated you against suicidal thoughts. I pretended to have an awakening and successfully faked a born-again quality joy that warded off the idiotic, feeble attempts of others to help me. When I woke up a day later, my depression had greatly improved. She failed at killing herself and learned a different process of questions to see her feelings. Theres people who love you and want you to keep pushing even if your soul reason is living to not put them through that heartache. It is important to note that there has been no activity on her phone, bank accounts, or social media accounts since Sept. 30. He once tried to jump off the Aloha Tower in Honolulu only to be thwarted at the last minute by police. Although severe depression led him to jump off the bridge, Kevin Hines has stated: The very second I let go, I knew I had made a big mistake.. 2023 Audacy, Inc. All rights reserved. Hundreds more are stopped from harming themselves through the efforts of the Golden Gate Bridge District . Wests parents confirmed in a new video released late Thursday she was last seen shortly before 7 a.m. on the Golden Gate Bridge. Construction of the Golden Gate Bridge suicide net, a coarse web of steel designed to catch and cradle people who jump, is two years behind . In the 1970s, a researcher named Richard Seiden wanted to find out what happened to 515 people who came to the Golden Gate Bridge to die within the previous 35 years, but who were stopped by California Highway Patrol officers. He might also have refused to remove the gun from the home, too. I recently lost a good friend to suicide. Perfectly so. Dressed in a blue sweatshirt, leggings and Vans slip-on sneakers, the 19-year-old college student last contacted her family the day before with a lengthy phone call to her dad, Jay West. I will just speak it: Their lies destroyed me and there is no one on earth greater than you and those you love and want to protect. What happens is if you dont kill yourself you spend the rest of your life being told you didnt mean it. And half of people who die by suicide had attempted suicide at least once previously. It may help,, Kind Regards, I have battled the thoughts of suicide for many years but after I had children those thoughts died. The Oscars will air on ABC and can be streamed on ABC.com and the ABC app as well as Hulu + Live TV, YouTube TV, AT&T TV or FuboTV. I feel selfish but I feel like I still have to be brave for people because of their fear I might try again. The San Francisco Police Department's tip line can be reached at 415-575-4444. Anyone interested in following the investigation may do so on Facebook or Instagram, and tag posts with #FindSydneyWest. Anyone with information about Sydneys whereabouts is asked to contact private investigator Scott Dudek by texting or calling 925-705-8328. I address the myth of inevitable suicide in this post. The Golden Gate Bridge, which first opened in May 1937, was the most popular suicide site in the world during the documentary's filming, with approximately 1,200 deaths by 2003. "Syd," as she liked to be called, was initially thought to have last been seen or heard from early the morning of September 30 in the Crissy Field area. The Suicide Deterrent System, also known as the Safety Net, is being constructed to keep people from jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge. I mean how long can I go ahead. We dont like living in pain, and we look for ways of ending that pain and, being creatures of habit, we do it in old familiar ways because thats what we know. Not having the courage to fulfill my plan, I checked into treatment centers and each time I checked out I sank into suicidal depression again. Another possibility is that the instinct to live kicks in once someone comes close to dying. Her family is not giving up hope that she is still alive and remains determined to find her. Suicide prevention can save lives. There is only a 4ft safety rail separating the sidewalk from the void, and 98% of suicide attempts there have succeeded. I know there will be a lot of people out there who will think a certain thing happened to Sydney. Rhodes was estranged from his wife Lorraine, who lived in the East Bay in Port Chicago with their two kids, Rocky, 4, and Oowala, 9, but he made arrangements for her to witness the stunt, maybe in the hope that the feat would win her back. Getting through them is the way to make your life your own again.. SFGATE's Editor-at-Large Andrew Chamings is a British writer in San Francisco. . Yet it gives me great hope that the vast majority of suicide attempt survivors remain just that survivors. This is certainly true for me: narcissistic mother and sister. West was born in Walnut Creek and lived briefly in Castro Valley before her family moved to Pleasanton. Anyone with information is asked to contact private investigator Scott Dudek at (925) 705-8328 or Dudek.associates@gmail.com. I am a suicide survivor from India. Healthcare sucks, Government sucks, Law Enforcement Sucks, the economy sucks, the housing market, job, market, and prospects suck, no body likes me, including myself, and I really dont like anyone else either.
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